The Ravages of Shame
As a mindset coach, one of the most damaging emotions or feelings I come across all the time is shame, and the crippling effect it can have on us.
Women having affairs vs Men having affairs
What is the first thing that crosses your mind when you hear the word "INFIDELITY"?
REBT - The power is in your mind.
Many of us become attached to the idea, that the reason we feel a certain emotion, is because of an experience we had.
REBT - the mind is powerful, adaptable and resilient.
We have more control over our thoughts, emotions, and behaviours than we realize.
Simply by changing our thoughts, our emotional reactions can be changed, and as a result, our behaviours can be changed as well.
REBT - how to feel more healthy, positive emotions.
I believe it is so important to learn how to use the power of your mind.
We all want to feel good. We want to feel happy and positive.
REBT - it’s all about your mind
“Why don’t they teach this stuff in school?”
This was a question from one of my clients recently, after an ah-ha moment in her session.
The Secret Keeper Part 3
We all know that keeping secrets isn’t good for us.
When you have a big secret, you carry more shame, guilt and anxiety every day.
The Secret Keeper Part 2
During an affair, why do we end up with a secret keeper in our lives? I mean, it’s a secret, shouldn’t it just stay that way?
The Secret Keeper Part 1
The first secret keeper is the obvious one.
The Grey Area of Secrets
Is this a black or white situation? Or is it a little grey?
Who is your Secret Keeper?
Often during an affair, there is fear, as well as a deep, sometimes subconscious, desire to be able to share your secret with someone.
Secrets and Lies
Secrets and lies are all a part of the package when it comes to infidelity.
Let me be your Voice
I will be your voice…
Who is holding your secret?
As long as there are relationships, there will always be infidelity. This is nothing new. It has been happening for centuries.
So I ask again, “Why the BIG SECRET?”
Secrets
To carry a secret is to play with fire…
YOUR story - YOUR truth - YOUR secret
There are many sides to infidelity.
It is a complicated fuck up of a situation!
The FIFO Point
So that MASK that you have been wearing…
It’s slipping…
It’s not working for you any more…
The Masks We Wear
My mask protected me in a way.
But a mask is only for the outer world.
SHAME - Part 5
The Power of ONE.
SHAME - Part 4
Not all emotions are equal, and each emotion has various levels of intensity.