The Ravages of Shame

Okay, so now that you all know what SyouFu™ means (if you missed the video, I suggest you go and check it out on my YouTube channel @SyouFu), let me explain a little more about the work I do, and why I created my SYouFu™ program.

As a mindset coach, one of the most damaging emotions or feelings I come across all the time is shame, and the crippling effect it can have on us.

Shame can be self-inflicted, and it can also be forced upon us.
Shame comes in many forms, and it lingers, like a monster in the dark.

It can stick around for months, often for years. And the reason for this is because often shame is cloaked in secrecy. We could be so ashamed about something that we have said or done, that we would rather not talk about it. Or someone else could be shaming us, and out of fear of what others might say or do, we do not speak up.

And the longer we keep it a secret, the heavier the shame becomes.

One of the biggest triggers of shame, is infidelity. And it affects ALL the parties involved in the affair, to one degree or another. The affair is one HUGE BIG SECRET, until it is not!

And once that happens, the domino effect kicks in and all hell breaks loose.

More secrets. More shame. Less life, and living it as we did before. People start becoming an empty shell, living in a personal hell, dreaming of a day when they could possibly get their lives back.

My hope is that through my writing and the videos I am creating (yes, I will post another one this week), people will hopefully start talking more about infidelity, in a mature way. It is only through talking about it, that we can learn from it.

We need to seek to understand, not just judge and humiliate and persecute.

I want people to know that they are not alone in this.
I want them to know that there really IS someone out there who gives a shit about them. And if nobody else wants to do it, I will be their voice.

We ALL make mistakes. It’s what we do about them that matters.