Take the Leap
Shit happens in life!
Yip I've been there. Done that. Got the T-shirt!
I know how it feels.
To be Shamed
The worst form of shame in my opinion is when somebody shames you! When you are shamed by someone else.
Double Shame
To all the women who have ever been cheated on, who have had affairs, or who have been somebody’s mistress, this is for you.
Just. Reach. Out.
The problem with shame is that the more silent you stay, the more shame you draw towards yourself. And the longer you keep the secret, the longer the shame hangs around.
The Ravages of Shame
As a mindset coach, one of the most damaging emotions or feelings I come across all the time is shame, and the crippling effect it can have on us.
Women having affairs vs Men having affairs
What is the first thing that crosses your mind when you hear the word "INFIDELITY"?
REBT - The power is in your mind.
Many of us become attached to the idea, that the reason we feel a certain emotion, is because of an experience we had.
REBT - the mind is powerful, adaptable and resilient.
We have more control over our thoughts, emotions, and behaviours than we realize.
Simply by changing our thoughts, our emotional reactions can be changed, and as a result, our behaviours can be changed as well.
REBT - how to feel more healthy, positive emotions.
I believe it is so important to learn how to use the power of your mind.
We all want to feel good. We want to feel happy and positive.
REBT - it’s all about your mind
“Why don’t they teach this stuff in school?”
This was a question from one of my clients recently, after an ah-ha moment in her session.
The Secret Keeper Part 3
We all know that keeping secrets isn’t good for us.
When you have a big secret, you carry more shame, guilt and anxiety every day.
The Secret Keeper Part 2
During an affair, why do we end up with a secret keeper in our lives? I mean, it’s a secret, shouldn’t it just stay that way?
The Secret Keeper Part 1
The first secret keeper is the obvious one.
The Grey Area of Secrets
Is this a black or white situation? Or is it a little grey?
Who is your Secret Keeper?
Often during an affair, there is fear, as well as a deep, sometimes subconscious, desire to be able to share your secret with someone.
SHAME - Part 1
SHAME. What a sneaky, ugly, destructive little word.