The Secret Keeper Part 2

While my current topic deals primarily with infidelity, secrecy can happen in ANY given situation. So these posts could ring true for many of us in a number of other situations as well.

Why do we end up with a secret keeper in our lives? I mean, it’s a secret, shouldn’t it just stay that way?

Sure, there are a handful of people who can do this and keep a secret forever.

However, most of us will reach a point, when we can no longer keep the secret to ourselves, either by choice, or by circumstance.

For some, the burden is so heavy you can hardly bear to face another day. When your mind is so overwhelmed that you know you can no longer think clearly. You need someone to talk to. You need to share the secret, to lessen the power it has over your mind.

Others will reach a point where the secret starts to affect your relationships with a close friend or a close family member. You start avoiding social interactions, for fear of slipping up, or being questioned. And you know if your close friend finds out via another person, you could lose that friendship.

Others eventually reveal the secret when a trusted friend keeps on insisting that she has a solution to whatever your issue is.

An example being:

“Come out with us tonight, there’s this chap I want you to meet. He would be perfect for you.”

How the fuck do you respond to that, when you are secretly seeing someone else? How many excuses do you have to keep making?

For others it is when the spouse/partner discovers the secret themselves, and then tells you:

"It can stay a secret so we can avoid the gossip.”

Or

“We need to keep up appearances.”

Yes, secret keepers exist among us, and they can either be your greatest ally, or your worst foe. Choose wisely.