The Secret Keeper Part 3

We all know that keeping secrets isn’t good for us.

When you have a big secret, you carry more shame, guilt and anxiety every day.

The secret makes you feel isolated.

When your emotions are tied to the secret, you can’t even think straight.

Talking about it also makes you feel vulnerable.

“What will people think of me?”

You start to feel like the proverbial deer in the headlights.

You know you need help, but who can you turn to?

Who do you talk to when you have fucked up?

NOT gossip mongers.

NOT people who are judgmental.

NOT people who have binary thinking. Those who see everything as either black or white. There is no middle ground for them.

The type of friend more likely to keep your secret safe is someone who is able to be non-judgmental.

Someone who is confidential.

Someone who is compassionate and empathetic.

And a person who will love you, regardless. (AKA my Mama )

I truly DO believe that everyone makes mistakes. It’s how we deal with them that matters. And I also believe that you need SOMEONE in your life to talk to. I know I needed someone!

Just make sure it is the right person.

Right now you need help, not judgement and persecution.

If you can’t talk about it, then write about your secret.

(Just make bloody sure you hide that journal away!!!)

All of that being said, one of the difficult parts of having a secret is, when you do decide to reveal your secret to someone, when is the right time to do so?

Who knows? Who ever really knows?

Sometimes you just have to take a chance.

Allow yourself to be vulnerable.

Take a leap. Find a friend.