Secrets and Lies

Yes, secrets and lies. They are all a part of the package when it comes to infidelity.

Initially, by keeping the secret, we hope to protect our reputation, and our relationships with those close to us.

This eventually leads to a feeling of isolation from others, and can also lead to the negative impact of our well-being.

Unfortunately, our society seems to be mesmerized by secrets.

Rather than reaching out, and trying to find out what is actually happening, the secret is passed on by way of gossip, and “I told you so” comments.

It seems to be more fun and easier to live vicariously through someone else’s drama, than to try and find out the facts, or seek to understand.

And as the saying goes:

'There are three sides to every story: your side, my side, and the truth. And no one is lying. Memories shared serve each differently.' ~ Robert Evans

The truth is effectively a battle of perceptions.

People only see what they want to see.

People only hear what they want to hear.

And when people have different perceptions, the truth has a way of getting lost, and the secret grows.

And as the secret grows, and spreads further and further, the shame that we feel grows exponentially. And our attempts of hiding from the secret become futile.

We may try to mute the conversations around us.

We may try to lower our eyes, so as not to see the looks from others.

No amount of hiding from the outside world can help us.

The secret is inside our minds, and there is no escaping from that.