It’s as if infidelity is a contagious disease, floating around looking for its next victim.

How on earth are you ever going to get CLARITY of your own situation, when you are feeling like an octopus, being pulled in different directions.

You are constantly on guard.

Constantly treading on eggshells.

Constantly thinking of the next story you have to make up to cover the secret.

A friend once told me if you hold a fart in for too long, it travels up your spin, into your brain, and that’s where all your shit ideas come from. Yes, I know it’s a joke, but it is a good analogy to use when it comes to secrets.

Every affair starts off shrouded in secrecy, regardless of whether it’s short-lived, or one that has been happening for a lengthy time.

She was a broken woman when she came through my door, and it was the first time I truly understood what ghosting actually meant. It was ruthless. It was spineless. It was cold.

“For many, infidelity is not just a loss of love; it is a loss of self.”

~ Esther Perel

"I don't know who I am anymore!"

For the women who have been SHAMED.

I want YOU to feel SEEN, and HEARD, and HONOURED for the journey that YOU are going through.

This is a shout out for all the special ladies, who have been caught up in a web of lies and false dreams.

I see you.

I acknowledge you.

And I’m here for you.

I would like to share a simple exercise that I use when feeling overwhelmed, or irritated, or anxious, or any number of yukky feelings.

There are many sides to infidelity. It is a complicated f**k up of a situation, and one that is not looked upon lightly.

So that MASK that you have been wearing? It’s slipping… it’s not working for you any more…

So what now? What does one do?

Yes, I was hiding the yukky stuff, the deep ugly heartache, the incredible shame, the loss of so much and so many. I didn’t want others to see my pain. I needed to show up as that strong woman everyone told me I was.

This post is for a special lady who has been constantly on my mind for a few days now. I just can’t get her out of my head.

The Power of ONE.

Yes, we’ve all heard the expression. But I want you to REALLY think about it…