I don’t know who I am anymore

“For many, infidelity is not just a loss of love; it is a loss of self.”
~ Esther Perel

"I don't know who I am anymore!"

If I were to pick up a stone every time I hear these words, I would be carrying a very heavy load by now.

Sadly one of the biggest side effects of a failed relationship, is a loss of self. When one invests so much time and emotion, and it ends badly, we are left with so many questions.

And because people do not like to talk about their failed relationships, all this shit builds up inside your head. And the less you talk, the more the shame grows, and the heavier it gets.

Everyone deals with things in their own way. Some appear to be stronger than others. And often it is the strongest ones who are carrying the heaviest burden. You might appear strong on the outside, but you are breaking on the inside.

You need to deal with these feelings, before they deal with you!

Believe me, you WILL reach a point, when you just can't pretend any more. And suddenly everything comes crashing down around you, and everyone is so surprised, 'cos they "never knew".

Don't wait for that day. Lean in. Reach out. And fuck what people think or say. It's YOUR life. So take control of it.

Sending love and hugs to all the strong women out there.
Annie