Gaining Clarity

Every affair starts off shrouded in secrecy, regardless of whether it’s short-lived, or one that has been happening for a lengthy time.

And until the shit hits the fan, either by your lover telling a friend, or your “soon-to-be ex-friend” telling your spouse, or you are actually caught red-handed (although I don’t think hands are the issue here), and the affair comes to light, the secret is protected at all costs.

Not only do you have to hide it from others, but an even bigger problem with keeping a secret, is that you have to live with it inside your head, and you constantly think about it.

Yes, keeping a secret is hard work! You have to be on guard all the time, so that you don’t slip up, and this can be exhausting. It can lead to high levels of stress, anxiety, depression, health problems, and so much more.

While it may seem counterintuitive, you eventually need to spill the beans to someone before your mind implodes. When you actually tell someone else, it reduces how often your mind wanders towards your secret. It can feel cathartic and can even bring you a sense of relief.

More importantly, when you confide a secret with the right person, often what is so helpful, is the discussion that follows. The release, the weighing up of pros and cons, the guidance, coping mechanisms, feeling supported.

Often it is a single conversation, that can help with the turmoil in your head, and in your heart, give you a fresh perspective, help you gain clarity, and lead you to make a balanced decision.

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If you are carrying a secret that is fucking with your mind and affecting your daily life, I would like to invite you to grab one of my Clarity 1:1 Sessions.