He had promised for so long that things wouldn’t always be like this. He had told her, that it was just a matter of time, and that it would be soon.

I know I have taken the road less travelled.

I know I am treading on toes.

I know I am tackling taboo topics. I know this makes people uncomfortable. I know there are many women out there, who need my voice.

What you tell others, depends on what you are willing to admit to yourself. These words still ring in my ears...

I was young and naïve. I was madly in love. And he made me feel like a princess.

Most of us look forward to the weekend. It’s a time to relax, unwind, spend time with family, go hang out with friends… You know… regular stuff that makes us happy.

The MISTRESS

She is not really the kind of person who puts her hand up shouting, "help me." She is unable to reach out and say, “I need a friend to talk to.” She lives in fear and shame, isolated a lot of the time.

I can see the pain in her eyes.

I can hear the hurt in her voice.

She has just poured her heart out to me, and she is sitting staring at me, a broken soul, waiting for me to give her the answers.

I told her to take a deep breath, looked her straight in the eyes, and said:

“You need to stop talking shit to yourself!

You just need ONE thought, or ONE emotion, or ONE action, or ONE person to believe in you. ONE person willing to listen. ONE person to hold you. ONE person to tell you it’s going to be okay. Just ONE… That is all…

She stood there amongst the other souls, looking at the beautiful array of boxes.

So many to choose from.

All different sizes, different colours, different designs.

There are a few things you need to remember when you decide to reveal your secret (or somebody else’s secret).

Not everybody wants to know.

Some prefer opting for voluntary ignorance.

“Secrects have a tendency to mushroom. You think you are keeping it all together, but in fact you are becoming more fragmented.”

~ Esther Perel

Journaling is probably the WORST thing you could possible use when you are in the middle of a relationship crisis, like an affair!!! DO NOT DO THIS!

It's often the smallest decision that you make, that initiates the biggest changes in your life.

You and I both know it’s only a matter of time, until the shit hits the fan.

You need to break free from the chains of the secrets.

It’s the only way you are going to feel less overwhelmed, less stressed, less exhausted, less ashamed, and gain CLARITY.

The truth WILL come out…

Often during an affair, there is fear, as well as a deep, sometimes subconscious, desire to be able to share your secret with someone.

SYouFu!

So You Fucked Up…

Now what?

Maybe on some delusional level, you might even consider sticking your head in the sand like an ostrich. And this never works.

Yes, secrets and lies.

They are all a part of the package when it comes to infidelity.

The secret is inside our minds, and there is no escaping from that.

It’s all so overwhelming!!

"To carry a secret is to play with fire.

Try to pass it on, and you risk hurting someone else.

Hold on to it… and eventually, you’ll get burned."

~Emily Thorne, Revenge