Voluntary Ignorance

There are a few things you need to remember when you decide to reveal your secret (or somebody else’s secret).

Not everybody wants to know.
Some prefer opting for voluntary ignorance.

I remember a friend of mine being incredibly upset when a group of well-meaning friends encouraged her husband to reveal his secrets to her. They felt it was the “right thing to do.”

She KNEW he travelled a lot.
She KNEW there were other women in his life that were his friends.

But she didn’t WANT to know if he ever strayed.
She didn’t WANT any information that would alter her life with him.

She was happy, living in a beautiful home, with the love of her life. He loved her and he treated her well.
That is all that mattered to her.

She was choosing voluntary ignorance to protect the life and the world she held so dear.

That was her choice to make.
And hers alone.
So be sure of your intentions before spilling the beans.

When it comes to revealing a secret you need to pause, and first ask yourself:
Is it honest?
Is it helpful?
Is it kind?

That is why it is so important to have a clear mind and a clear heart when you are trying to make a difficult decision.

You need to be able to dump everything from your heart and mind on the table, so that you can make space for CLARITY on what it is that you actually want for YOU.

When you have CLARITY you will make better decisions.

When you have CLARITY you will take everything into account.

When you have CLARITY you will begin to know what you need to do next.