I sometimes feel like I have been groomed my whole life to be able to address the topic of infidelity.

As a small child I was witness to my dad’s numerous affairs, although at the time I just assumed he was being kind to these lonely ladies.

STAY OR GO? That is the big question.

The big question that can alter the course of your life.

“It’s better to have nobody, than to have somebody who is half there.”

Really? Who makes this shit up?
Clearly someone who has never been in half a relationship!!

“I don’t want to be the other woman, but I don’t know how to end this.”

I had finally said the words. And shit suddenly got very real for me.

And just like that, ONE DAY arrives, and he unexpectedly walks through your door, carrying his bags, finally ready to commit to you!

I realized if he wanted me in his life, he should have been putting me there.

I was NOT going to be fighting for a SPOT anymore!

Being in a secret relationship, can make you feel more lonely than if you were single.

If it HAS been a few years, and you are STILL his big secret… well…

Only you can decide if that is okay for you or not.

There is nothing worse than being alone when the shit hits the fan, and you have nobody you can talk to about it.

And you have just received a message from your friend saying: “Girl’s night out!”

And you cringe!! You scold yourself for having opened the message. Now you are forced to reply.

You are forced to make an excuse. You are forced to lie again.
You would love to go with them! You know it will cheer you up, but…

Being in a relationship with a married man certainly has it’s ups and downs.

But when the downs start becoming more than the ups, you have to start asking if this is really all worth it.

When you are in a relationship with a married man, you are always on high alert.

Yes, there is the obvious high alert… You don’t want to get caught! But there are other things as well, that keep you on high alert, that you probably don’t even realize you are doing.

Being in love with a married man really fucks with your mind!

You can’t stop thinking about him, and the shit thing is, not all those thoughts are happy ones.

Imagine being able to wake up each morning, with your legs entwined with the man you love.

I want it to stop hurting…

Another weekend alone.
Another weekend thinking…
I had made up my mind.
I could not... no, WOULD NOT carry on like this!

Deep inside you know you are reaching a breaking point.

It is destroying you, and any hope of a beautiful future with a man who loves you ONLY.

You are tired of being HIS OTHER WOMAN and you are wanting something to change.

It was the weekend again. She had grown to hate weekends.
That’s when he would stop calling. That’s when she sat home all alone, with her thoughts and insecurities.

It was only years later, in my late teens, that I started putting 2 and 2 together.

I began to realize how “NOT NORMAL” it was for dad to be bringing pretty, single women home.

Back in MY daaaaay… 😜🤣

A psychologist or therapist was for those CRAZY people (according to my dad), and a coach was the dude or chick who taught you how to play a certain sport at school.

Terms like “dysfunctional family” and “broken home” and “PTSD” were not even a thing! So as a child, my life was normal, like everybody else.