Being Naive - The frog in the pot

How could this have happened?
How could I have done this? Was I SO naïve?
How could I not have read the signs?
Why did I ignore the warnings of others?

I was now officially “The Other Woman” and I was blissfully unaware that I was being labelled this way. I was in cuckoo land. I was on cloud nine. I was sitting on my pedestal.

Unfortunately I must have missed the email about pedestals!

And nobody actually warned me ('cos by that stage nobody was talking TO me) that when you are on a pedestal, it is a dangerous place. Because when you fall, it's a long way down, and it ends in severe pain!

Yes, I got caught in the web.
And there are many women who get caught in this web.

And one of the questions asked of any woman in this situation is:
“How could you not have seen the signs?”
or
“Why did you ignore the warnings of others?”

I have thought about this over the years.
I have thought long and hard, believe me.

And ONE of my conclusions (yes I have more than one) is it all comes down to the boiling frog.

Huh? The boiling frog???

Consider this…
If you put a frog in a pot of boiling water, OBVIOUSLY it will frantically scramble to get out.

But if you place it gently into a pot of cool water and turn the heat on low, it will float there quite peacefully.

And as the water gradually heats up, the frog will drift into a tranquil stupor, with a smile on its fucking face.

It will unresistingly allow itself to be boiled to death.

And this is what happens when a vulnerable woman is being woo-ed by a married man.

She is slowly warmed up, often over weeks and months, before she realizes she is in hot water.

It happens. It’s real.

And it makes you feel like an absolute fool, when you realize you are now one of THOSE WOMEN.

Seek to understand, before you judge.