Gossip vs a Discussion

The difference between gossip and a discussion.
(And a challenge - come on, I dare you!)

When somebody is found out to be cheating, the women in the community run around and gossip about it, as opposed to sitting around and having a discussion about it.
(Relax, I will talk about the men in another post!)

“Oooh guess what SHE did! She’s such a bitch.”
“What a whore!”
“What a slut!”

Come on, tell me you haven’t done this, or been nearby and heard this happening?
Am I right? Or am I right?

It’s just like all the news on TV, or the internet.
It’s all about the drama and shit that is happening in the world.
When last did you hear a news report of something super cool, or fucking awesome?

I think it would be absolutely fabulous to have a news channel dedicated solely to great news and cool shit happening in the world! Fucking awesome!

A the very least, wouldn’t it be awesome if a news segment ended with a ridiculous joke or gif to lighten the load.

But, I digress… Let me get back on topic again!

So, the choice is to gossip about another woman, instead of sitting around and saying:
“Oooh I hear she is somebody’s mistress?"
"I wonder why she has done that?"
"I wonder what’s happened in her life, to make her accept being treated like this by a married man?”

“Maybe one of us should find a set of balls and go and ask her directly?”
“Maybe she doesn’t know that we all know?”

“Maybe it’s NOT even happening, and we can all just see the signs of what is ABOUT to happen?”
Cos us women have that sneaky intuition thing going on, we can see shit coming from a mile away.
That’s why our kids can’t fool us either.
We fucking KNOW stuff!!

“Perhaps we should warn her that he is circling around her and she is about to be caught in a nasty web.”
“I would hate it if that was happening to one of us and nobody told us.”
“Maybe we should do something to help her and keep him the fuck away from her.”
“At least if we raise her awareness, she can protect herself.”

But NOOOOO!
That is not how life works, is it?

We looooove the drama.
We looooove the prospect of a beautiful woman falling flat on her face.
We looove the idea that we have something to look forward to on our boring book club nights.
We can GOSSIP! YES! Now THAT is fun!

So ladies, my challenge to you today is, just for one week, try and be aware when gossipy type shit is going down.

And if it is, try very hard to stop the discussion in its tracks.
If you can’t do that, tell your friends you are uncomfortable discussing another woman’s business.
Or just walk away.

And if you REALLY have a good heart, reach out to the woman who is being gossiped about.

If you are really ballsy, you could tell her straight up what’s being said. Give her a heads up. Warn her the dude is circling.

And if you can’t do that, maybe reach out to her.
Start gently. Ask her what’s going on in her life.
Is she in a good place or a bad place?
Is she feeling vulnerable?

Show her you fucking CARE, and you might be surprised if she bursts into tears out of sheer relief that someone has taken the time to listen to HER.

I urge you, give it a shot.
YOU might end up being the very reason another vulnerable woman doesn’t end up in the nasty web of infidelity.
YOU might end up being her light, showing her some care.

So there is your challenge.
Try THAT for the next week, and I will check in with you about it to see how you all did.

I hope someone surprises me with a happy story!

Sending love and light,
Annie