Affairs don’t start in the bedroom

This is a shout out for all the women out there who might be in a vulnerable place right now, whether you KNOW this about yourself, or if it’s on a subconscious level…

You need to be very aware that affairs don’t start in bedrooms...

Affairs start when you suddenly feel seen and heard.
Affairs start when he makes you feel appreciated.
Affairs start with a look, or a smile, or a simple conversation.
Maybe even an email or a text message with a cute emoji to make your day.

Believe me, when he has you in his sights, he is already planning, long before you have even realise he is paying you any attention.

He somehow creates a connection with you, and suddenly you are having conversations with someone who is being present in a way that you aren’t used to.
And it’s awesome, and exciting, and flattering.

At some point you realise he is married.
You may even have already known he is married.

If so, please stop trying to convince yourself that just because you're chatting with him or getting texts from him, it's nothing serious or anything to worry about.

Please stop telling yourself that the flirting is good for your self-esteem, and it’s just innocent fun.

There is nothing innocent about this type of man.

He knows exactly what he is fucking doing!

And chances are he has done it numerous times before and gotten away with it.

Do you even realise he is interested in something more?

When you are feeling vulnerable, or overlooked, or if you are anxious when it comes to socialising, he will SENSE this, and he will USE this to his advantage.

So, if you find yourself in a vulnerable place in your life, and that good looking guy pays you a compliment or looks at you in certain way, and you find yourself having thoughts like:
Is he looking at ME?
Is he flirting with ME?
Surely he is looking at the woman behind me?
He couldn’t possibly be interested in ME??

Well let me reassure you and answer your questions.
Yes.
Yes.
No.
And Definitely!

He is on the hunt, he can sense your vulnerability, and it won’t be long before he heads in for the kill. And you WILL get hurt in the end.

So next time that gorgeous guy gives you a look, a smile, or a wave, don’t be too naïve.

Check the hand that he is waving with.
Does it have a ring on one finger?
Does it have a tan mark where a ring once was?

And remember these words... affairs don’t start in the bedroom.

Take care out there.
Annie